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We Are Here For You.

Domestic violence, sexual violence, and stalking can happen to anyone. The Thurston County Family Justice Center is here to help.


The TCFJC has been the dream of the partner agencies for several years in order to reduce the number of contacts a person needs to make to obtain help and to increase personal safety for victims and their families.

In 2004, several organizations and agencies throughout the county participated in an audit to determine how well victims of domestic violence and sexual assault were being served. The results were dismal. Since that time, social service agencies, law enforcement agencies, judges, the Prosecuting Attorney, the County Clerk and many other organizations have been working together to improve services for victims, improve law enforcement response, and improve accountability for offenders.

The goal of the Thurston County Family Justice Center is to improve safety for victims and to increase access to coordinated services delivered in a collaborative manner.

Lead Partners:

Community Partners Include:


Disagreements develop from time to time in relationships. Domestic violence is not a disagreement. Domestic violence encompasses a wide range of acts committed by one partner against another in an intimate relationship. This may occur in a variety of relationships.

Domestic violence is a pattern of behaviors, some causing physical injury, others not, some criminal, others not, but all psychologically damaging. Frequently, domestic violence includes threats of violence, threats of suicide, or threats to take children from the abused person. It may also include breaking objects, hurting pets, yelling, driving recklessly to endanger or scare the abused person, isolating family members from others, and controlling resources like money, vehicles, credit, and time.

The goal of an abusive person is to establish and maintain control over his or her partner.

Domestic violence is a learned pattern of behavior whose effects, without intervention, become more destructive and sometimes lethal.

There's no excuse for domestic violence.

Why Do Victims Stay?

Below are only some of the reasons a victim may remain in an abusive relationship. Fear of the unknown can be terrifying and dangerous. For many, leaving an abusive relationship means facing an uncertain future and:

  • Fear of retaliation and harm against them or their families by the abuser;
  • Fear the abuser will take their children either through legal or illegal methods;
  • Fear that no one will believe them;
  • Fear that the abuser will them to immigration for deportation;
  • Fear that the abuser will be deported by immigration;
  • No or severely reduced financial resources;
  • Isolation from friends and family;
  • No childcare;
  • No means of transportation;
  • Shame;
  • Guilt;
  • Depression;
  • Victim's religious beliefs.

Same sex partner violence: Beyond the above reasons for staying, same sex partners may have additional concerns.

  • An abusive partner may threaten to "out" his or her partner's sexuality to family, friends, or co-workers as a tactic to get that person to stay in the relationship or to coerce the victim in order to get what he or she wants.
  • Lesbians and gays whose families and friends are unsupportive of their sexuality have fewer sources of support, thereby increasing isolation and making it more difficult to end abusive relationships. Abusive partners may use this situation to their advantage to keep a relationship going; they may continuously remind the victim how alone he or she will be if he or she tries to leave.
  • Victims who are not "out" publicly may be reluctant or unwilling to seek help from the police, the courts, and other services because it would require them to reveal their sexuality and possibly face embarrassment, ridicule, or even harassment

Military - Active Duty and Dependants have additional concerns.

  • If the victim is active duty, they may fear being perceived as weak or unsuitable for career advancement.
  • Dependants of active duty military personnel may fear being evicted from military housing, losing access to health care for themselves or their children and other military benefits such as commissary privileges.
  • Isolation from friends and family with rapid and frequent moves and deployments.